How Are We Supposed To Teach Our Sons...

Dads: How are we supposed to teach our sons the right way to live, when we're not living the way that we should? How can we help them make proper choices and overcome obstacles in their youth, when we often wrestle with the same issues as adults?

Tonight, I spent some time talking with my son about the final grades from his Freshman year of High School. He ended the year on a very weak note, scraping by with a "D" average. His report card was downright awful and he was alright with it. He'd mentioned he was surprised at how "well" he did, considering he was failing several classes only weeks before. I couldn't help but cringe at his mindset.

Yet, I totally understood where he was coming from.

His report card could have just as easily been one of mine, during my middle or high school career. He isn't privy to this knowledge, but he's chosen to walk down the same path of struggle, underachievement and regret that I did. Looking back at the missed opportunities and untapped potential in my own life, it literally gets my blood boiling that he is choosing the same fate. He's often disrespectful, lazy and will come up with every excuse in the book why he can't be an "A" student. He's chosen to give up and accept the lie that he can't do anything about it. It's aggravating.

I'm angry, but not judgmental. How hypocritical would it be to drill into him now, when I've committed the very same poor behaviors in my youth? I simply want better for him. Because of poor choices in my youth, I have to work extra hard toward making consistent, wise decisions now. I have a good work ethic now, but it doesn't come naturally. I have to work at it and honestly, I fail almost as often as I succeed. I gather he's learned by example.

What does that mean for the next generation? Our pastor recently shared a poem with us, pertaining to our children looking up to us and walking in our ways. Our sons want to be like us- so we need to watch what we do, in order to help shape what they do.

Lord Jesus, I pray that you help give the discipline to return to you and your ways. Please give the strength and stamina to build character and illustrate hard work and positive choices for our children. Please soften our hearts to encourage generosity and kindness to others. Please help us to be the fathers you intended us to be. Amen.

Colossians 3:20-24 (New International Version)

20Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.

21Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.

22Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything; and do it, not only when their eye is on you and to win their favor, but with sincerity of heart and reverence for the Lord. 23Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, 24since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.

Good Night